“I woke up one morning and saw I had a Hinge message essentially saying, “you have a bit of a perception problem because you have such a juxtaposition within your photos and within who you are and what you’re looking for. There's good photos and good sides but they’re quickly stamped out by the ‘douche-baggington’ photos of you that you’re projecting onto females.”

At first I was a bit self defensive and ego because to me I had put up the douche photo in jest.

But I realized I didn’t put time and thought into thinking about the audience's perspective and so for some reason I decided to include this douchey pic and continue torturing myself by attracting gold diggers into my life.

So I was intrigued by her helping men correct their ‘perception problem,’ or at least provide them feedback and advice and details about what kind of photos say what about you and what kind of image you’re actually projecting.

Because here’s the key component I was missing: creating an authentic perception in order to let someone into joining your REALITY.”

“So I first verified she’s legit and not a scam, haha. I spoke to her on the phone and verified her info.

So I’m hiring her, and she’ll get to learn my background, characteristics and true character of me.

I’m just going with it.

I’m going to give her the low down and she’s going to help me craft a public facing persona for my Hinge profile. I’ll let you guys know how it goes.”

“So I met with the wingwoman yesterday.

It was quite literally like hanging out with Elaine from Seinfeld. You know, busting each other's balls and stuff, and it was fun.

It’s a very natural convo when the pretense is ‘just share with her the real deal so that she could understand my goals, visions, and help me craft the appropriate persona and character that is a lot more authentic and true to who I am and also will allow me to attract the actual person that I want to attract.’

I had remembered Jeff Bezos’ advice, ‘when I'm 80 years old I want to minimize the amount of regrets I have in my life.’ So I went all in.

She basically collected a lot of info about me, I disclosed everything.

This is the first chick I ever disclosed about my last relationship, and I told the actual honest truth to this new ‘Elaine’ in my life, because well, I was committed to being authentic.

Guess how she reacted?

I wish it was a lot more dramatic and funny and worthy of a crazy story worth retelling, but in fact she was actually super cool with it and ok with it and told me about a personal story of her own that related.

So it was interesting because I think we have a lot of these reserved histories about ourselves that we believe are bad but actually just touch on different aspects of who we are.

So it went really, really well.”

“I had an absolute blast with basically the “Hitch” of my life - wherein you have someone that serves as a perception coach or dating coach.

We went on some fun adventures yesterday and just had a good time connecting more in depth.

I’ve started to call her my perception coach/dating coach, but really she’s basically Elaine from Seinfeld.

She gives me shit and calls me out and connects me to reality from a female's perspective. And we just had a crazy fun time.”

“So if you remember, about a week ago a nice young lady contacted me and said in my dating profile I come across as a complete and utter douche.

We had two in-person meetings and I actually had a blast at both of them.

So yesterday, I got back the profile she created for me, and HOLY CRAP…. It is hands down absolutely amazing!

When talking with her and going through everything it made me realize how much whenever we’re creating our own profile, we write just to please ourselves instead of actually writing as if the person on the other end is a real person.

That's certainly what I had done.

When I wrote my initial profile I didn’t take it seriously - reason being because I just wanted to get something out there already.

I approached it almost as if I was approaching a copywriting project, where I wrote to get reactions and to be super hilarious.

The thing that is different - that is night and day from that initial profile I had up to what she and God came up with - was one key huge difference; she got to know the core authentic true me. The absolute transparent version of who I am today.

Not the self ideal I have in my mind nor the self concept I hope to one day obtain/attain/get to. But the authentic, raw, person I am today.

And she captured it and placed it beautifully on my profile.”